mimi0108

Don't worry, you'll be happy. She ends up with 17.
She'll start dressing like a girl in episode 18.

It wasn't the brother but his lover, TSJ's fiancé who couldn't wait to get ride of him.

In which episode do will learn why they divorced please?

She didn't talked about it but I think she suspects deep down Mu Fei was telling the truth so she wants to keep that to herself. After all, the reason she was afraid to meet her father again was because people told her about her mother's affair. A part of her thinks she can be Chi Chen's daughter.

I understand your feeling, I'm also quite frustrated by certain character traits and lack of action of TSJ. However, when it comes to XY, I don't think everything she says should be taken as the absolute truth. She is a living paradox.

Example: in episode 14, she tells TSJ she can't be like San'er who chooses to cling to a man to forget the hardness of life and that the only thing she chooses to keep is the fear of being abandoned. San'er also shows only a part of herself to her husband, living in falsehood.
But TSJ and XY also do this to each other at first. XY accepts the 15-year promise without really believing in it and believing in TSJ. She shows him what he wants to see. TSJ too. When he was Shiqi, completely devoted to her, who speaks little and erases his personality and his desires to model himself on her. He only shows her a part of his personality so that she clings to him. They mutually need each other and that the other doesn't let them down but they don't trust the other to let go and being completely natural (at least at first).

XY says things and sometimes she sticks to it but sometimes she doesn't or, on the contrary, she criticizes something she is currently experiencing but without admitting it to herself.

TSJ is not cunning and ruthless enough to protect himself and her. He is too filial, gentle, accommodating and ends up making them both suffer and almost losing her forever.
However, of all the choices, he is the only one that truly gives her hope.
CX is XY's brother, she loves him with a family love while being lucid about his cruelty, ambition and wishing no woman to be romantically linked to him.
XL is the enemy of herfamily, a tormented demon who chose to die in battle. She will have no stability, no future, no peace with him even though he is her soulmate and she enjoys life with him the most. In TSJ's own words, XL, when he's FFB, best matches what XY aspires to in life. But it's impossible.
FFL doesn't love her and is ambition like her brother. He will never put her first or offer her the affection she desires.
There remains only TSJ who is submissive to her, devoted. He is ready to die with her, to wait for her for a lifetime. He has no ambition for power or loyalty to the military. Yes, he has a complicated family, but of all of the suitors, he is the only one who is ready to put her first, to give up everything, and to comfort her for eternity.
Which is why, despite his inability to not get trapped and protect himself, TSJ is the one she chooses. He's not perfect, he's not going to give her the life she most desires, but he's going to give her love and comfort that no other can.

It's his older brother baby since TSJ fiancée is his brother's lover.

Is it an official account use to impersonifiate character?

My interpretation:

1) CX likes FFL as a friend (it's his only friend). He's a guy who looks like him, a great support, descended from a royal family. FFL has a crush for XY but no more while XY will never love FFL more than CX.
Therefore, CX is not worried their relationship will become so important that he will be pushed into the background.

2) TSJ is engaged to an important family, the whole country is aware of this and praises the perfect couple he forms with his fiancée. Even if TSJ manages to call off his engagement, his reputation and that of XY will take a hit. But there, he's courting and flirting with XY while he's still engaged and, perhaps, will not be able to call off his engagement. Which enrages CX both as a man who loves XY and as an older male member of XY's family.
His rage when he thinks they share intimate moments at night is increased tenfold because of this. As a cousin, honor demands he kills TSJ, and as a man in love, he can't bear to imagine them intimate.

3) CX is afraid XY will end up loving TSJ more than him and prioritizing TSJ over him.

For some, it's already Sunday so tomorrow would be monday.

It was lost forever...

He seems to have preserved from life's hardships, unlike CX. And so he kept an innocent and pure side. But he's definitely not a good fit for XY. He will never put her first and, unlike all her other suitors, he isn't in love with her and therefore will not cherish her as she deserves. Marrying him would be a loss for her.

3rd ML is the mortal enemy of her cousin and grandfather. He is a general from a fallen country, who fights with the survivors of his army to die in battle rather than surrender to the enemy. On top of that, he's an unpredictable demon who has harmed her physically in the past.
She wants a long and happy life with a man who will never give up on her. The 3rd ML fights constantly (so can abandon her at any time for his loyalty to his army and die in battle) and is the enemy of her family. It is therefore impossible for them to be together. Therefore, she locks her heart and tries to find a husband with her head, someone who fulfills her needs and who she is attracted to.
Which is the 2ML. She is physically attracted to him, likes him, they lived as a family for 6 years. He is sweet, kind and devoted to her. Moreover, he is weaker than her on some levels which gives her the impression of having the upper hand in the relationship and he is obsessed with her which reassures her in her fear of abandonment.
It is a simpler and more rational love than the one with the 3rd ML, but it is nonetheless without difficulty since the 2nd ML has problems to settle with his family and neither of them is fully trusting the other (partly due to each being aware XY is not totally in love with and devoted to him).

I'm very mixed with TSJ. A part of me likes his cute and nice side but a part of me would like much more to see the confident and powerful man we see him to be at rare times (like when he comes to save XY from XL's camp in episode 4).

There are 3 points that bother me the most with him (my opinion is based only on what the drama shows, not the novel of which I only read some chapters):

1) His passivity in relation to his brother.
He doesn't want revenge on his brother but knows that the latter can attack XY if he knows she matters to him. That being said, I find it hard to know if he has a plan to prevent this or not. How to protect XY from his brother if he does nothing against him?

2) His engagement and his inability to call it off.
He doesn't love his fiancée, doesn't want to marry her and keeps telling her that. However, apart from asking his grandmother to accept, he doesn't seem to do anything about it. He doesn't go to see his fiancée's family, he doesn't seem to investigate his fiancée (who is very suspicious) whereas following her for 2 seconds would allow him to discover the affair between her brother and her. For me it's a problem if he can't manage this for years, letting the population get used to his engagement. The more time passes, the more difficult it will be to break it. And the harder it will be to get his marriage to XY accepted without it being frowned upon.

3) His attitude towards XY.
He constantly belittles himself in front of her, calling out for her pity (but not wanting it either). And while I understand his insecurity, I find sometimes he uses that to his advantage more than to really confide in the woman he loves. He asks her to wait for him for 15 years while he fixes his mess and keeps reminding her of this promise. He also spies on her.
All this doesn't please me because it seems to indicates a certain manipulation and a lack of trust. Like is he devalues ​​himself because he knows she will take pity on him and, that her heart will be moved and therefore more likely to fall in love over time. He makes her promise to wait for him and not to love another and keeps reminding her because he knows/thinks she can break his promise and doesn't trust her or her love for him (but still, he want to tie her to him). He spies on her because he doesn't respect her autonomy and needs to see what she's doing with another man.

Conclusion:
He is the nicest, most stable and cute of the 3 MLs. But maybe that's exactly why I expect more from him. Instead, there are several red flags that confuse me. And since I don't see him taking action to protect his future with XY, to protect his place in his household, and I don't like the way he is obsessed, possessive, and emotionally manipulative with her, he's not one of my favorites at all. It may also be my personal experience that makes me really uncomfortable with this kind of attitude. But I hope he will evolve and that by the end of the drama, what I blame him for will no longer be.

Am I the only one having this feeling with him?

Since episode 26, TSJ knows who XL is.
The latter has stolen supplies from Xiyan and wants to transport them to his army. So he needs TSJ.

He said it's been 400 years since he's FFB.

Thanks for this great summary of the novel's timeline!
In the drama, it's seems XY & FFB went buying the new bow close to the assassination since they last saw each other the same night.
Considering the drama, I think we can say :
6 years at Qinshui Town.
At least 1 year at Haoling with her father.
At least 2 years at Xiyan town (CX used drugs for more than 6 months and before that FFB & XY had time to become friends, travel together, learn archery etc...).
At least 2 years in the central plains.
At least 1 year at FFL house.
So no less than 6 years since the promise.

Oh, so indeed, it may be 10 years. Maybe she had less than a year at Haoling, then more than a year at Xiyan town and now more or less 8 years since CX and XY left their grand-mother Mont.
Thanks x)

Indeed, XY mentionned CX is taking the drugs since 6 months. And he started taking them long after coming back to Xiyan since he was doing a lot of work for the minister before this. And XY had time to meet FFB, learned archery, traveled with him and so on. So, it's been a couple of years at least when they left in episode 25.
Thanks for reminding me that!

She was talking about her 70years waiting at Mont Jade as a child, waiting for her cousin or her father to come take her.
We know TSJ lived with her in Qinshui Town for around 6 years. And right after, they made the 15 years promise who's still not fulfill (so it's less thant 15 years since she became the Princesse again).

Does anyone have any idea how long has passed since XY became the Princess of Haoling again? How long did she spend in Xiyan with her cousin?
I don't know if it was said in the drama and I missed this sentence or if it was never said.
I would like to know how many years have passed compared to the promise of 15 years.