Kelekat

Soooo based on the comments I'm seeing on here it seems many people feel that locking Rapunzel in a tower to keep her safe was not abusive. Anyone who thinks that level of control over another adult is "understandable" needs to really think about what the heck it is they're saying. His actions were intolerable. His behavior was extreme and actually abusive. He's lucky she was as sweet and kind and forgiving as she was because quite frankly I could see her trying to move to another country just to get away from him.

I agree with everything you said.

Here's what's baffling to me. In any other drama, had this been a parent acting that way toward their child, everyone would hate that parent and would clearly see that he'd gone too far. He literally locked her in her room!

Yes, he's experienced trauma and because of his field of work is exposed to the worst of the worst but none of that justifies him literally imprisoning her to "protect" her. That's when your ass needs therapy.

I didn't think of the girlfriend but I did think about any kids he might have. They'd be screwed from birth! I hated him in those episodes (that's where I am now).

Locking her in her room is NOT okay. Not under any circumstances. She's a goddamn adult.
He has every right to disagree with the relationship and can wholeheartedly try to convince her that it's a bad idea but beyond that he needs to respect her decisions. Period.

After spending all that time with the man while going through training, background or no it was obvious he was a good person. If he was so concerned about his personality then he should have tried to get to know him better.

A good brother (or parent) would know when to step back and instead be determined to play close attention to the relationship to look out for warning signs, and prepare himself to be there for her if things go wrong, to help her through it. His behavior was disgusting.

He wants him to guarantee that if she's with him she'll still be able to pursue her dreams while also forcing him to give up his own.

Also, forcing someone to give up something that's such a huge part of themselves just to appease you when you're not even the one they're dating is absolute bullshit. Couples fall apart when one sacrifices too much for another. Even when a person chooses to give up their dreams to be with their loved one that eventually can become a strain on any relationship (strong or not), so those situations are bad enough. Many come to regret the decision they made when things start to get tough in the relationship (which will happen in every relationship, without fail) but at least in those cases it was THEIR decision. However, to be forced by someone else to make that kind of sacrifice is simply another way of making sure the relationship is ruined from the get-go. He was an absolute asshole.

His sister should have told HIM to choose - either accept and respect her decisions and their relationship or lose her completely.

Also, just because someone has a good background and looks perfect on paper and even seems perfect when you're around them, doesn't mean that they won't go home and beat the shit out of their wives. That's what you get for judging people based on stats and not from getting to know them. So NO, his behavior was not AT ALL understandable.

I absolutely detest Ning Weikai. Of course I dislike him for his dirty, underhanded and unethical ways, that's to be expected. However, what I hate most about him is whenever he's beat fair and square he has the gall to act all offended and disgusted by their schemes. Not to mention, the only reason they have to scheme against him is because of the need to protect themselves from his underhanded and immoral behavior. His actions are straight up illegal most of the time and unethical all of the time. Theirs is never either one. I'm only on episode 23 now and I'm going to say I hope like hell they don't give his character a redemption story because I'll be disgusted. Every single thing he does involves manipulation and calculation. His going after Grace is pissing me off because she's smart enough to see through him so if they end up letting them become close later on I'll probably throw up.

Oddly enough this is only the second time I've seen the actor playing Ning Weikai in a drama. The other time was when he was the SML in My Mr. Mermaid. What's crazy is his character there is the first time I genuinely hated a character while watching a drama, all because of his constant manipulation and scheming and selfishness. Sound familiar?

The actor needs to choose different roles because he plays these a bit too well. I ended up liking My Mr. Mermaid but have never been able to watch it again because of how strongly I felt about his character in it. It's been years. I didn't recognize him here at first but when I started catching on Ning Weikai's personality it all seemed too familiar. Then I realized why.

Got another question. How long does it take for the FL to finally believe her 'senior' is a dirty P.O.S.? Around which episode?

I have a question I hope someone might be able to answer as it keeps nagging at me. I'm just at the end of episode 8 but since the first time the FL's assistant mentioned wearing wigs (I think in the first episode) the FL has constantly been swapping back and forth between her own hair and a wig that's very similar to it in style. Is there a reason for this that shows itself later on or something? Like, maybe she cut her hair in later episodes and some of these scenes I'm watching now were filmed after that happened?

Sweet! Thanks for the quick reply!

I'm only on the second episode now and I'm having some issues with that co-worker/friend of the FL. First, she wants to knowingly ship off faulty products to save money hoping most of those customers would be as dumb as her (literally the reasoning she gave but phrased differently), then she starts yelling at a customer that "she already said she was sorry" and proceeded to argue with them...um, what kind of bullshit apology was that? Then! The FL's brother arrives - whom the FL clearly doesn't want made aware of the troubles the business is currently facing - and she immediately ignores the FL and tells him everything. Had this been another drama she'd easily be someone the FL should avoid being in business with for sure.

Thank you SO MUCH for this!

Happy ending?

How slow are we talking? When do the leads get together?

LOL! I swear you and I watch all the same things. You're always ahead of me though. Feels like every time I scroll through the comments just to make sure there won't be any ugly surprises in a drama I see your ID pop up. That's kinda cool.

I'm not following the synopsis here at all. Could you help me understand what this is about?

LMAOOOOOO! I haven't watched the drama yet. Just scrolling through comments to get the just of it since the synopsis doesn't give much. But your comment had me rolling!

Your response is perfection. Just what I needed. I'm definitely taking your advice. I'll watch this first but I'll also check out the anime if I can.

Thank you!

I actually watched the movie version of this a few months ago and ended up really enjoying it but for some reason I'm finding myself apprehensive about watching the series. Maybe it's because I don't want certain less appealing aspects of the drama to be drawn out longer than I can stand them to be???

Not to mention the ML in the movie was.......who was as stunningly gorgeous in it as ever, whom I will forever love and miss terribly to this day. Some of my apprehension may be due to the series linking me back to thoughts of him.

Can anyone let me know if this gets very angsty at all? Or does it stay pretty positive and mellow?

I realize too that I'm overly sensitive to this whole topic of people constantly failing to take responsibility for their own actions and instead choosing to place all of the blame on others, even going so far as to actively expressing their anger in such terrible ways. It takes a lot to cross the line and act upon your negative thoughts. Everyone has those thoughts but, at least in the past, most people never actually acted upon them. In the drama (and as we now commonly see more and more in reality too) every single person acted upon those ugly thoughts. Everyone also came to their own conclusions about their situations without ever communicating with the other person involved, which could have allowed both parties an opportunity to grow. I think the series actually tried to convey that too but that part of the message was somewhat lost in the mix along the way.

It's tremendously frustrating that more and more people seem to think this behavior is acceptable which, quite frankly, is utterly insane in my opinion. Like what's happening to humanity? Has the value of "doing to others as you'd have them do to you gone out the window?" In the drama, not a single person told the ML how they felt or ever expressed their frustration towards him until the FL finally did, and it took so much for her to even get to the point of expressing herself to him as well. How do people expect others to know there's a problem when they never bother expressing it to them? Just like when he said not a single person said anything to him about the death threat email. No one communicates. No one takes responsibility. Yet everyone feels validated when they act out. Like, huh?

Anyway, thanks for hearing me out and for sharing your own thoughts as well. I'm really glad I watched this one. I'll watch it again sometime too. It was fun!

I love the way you broke this down as I had many of the same thoughts you expressed. I can't believe people thought he deserved it! I'm glad I hadn't seen those comments. No one deserves to be attacked just because you dislike them or something they did. I'm sorry but that kind of thinking is just wrong. You make yourself just as bad (and, more often worse) than that person when you choose to act out on your negative emotions.

I'm so glad you mentioned the ML's best friend not just going straight to him and asking him about it. That was driving me nuts so I'm happy to realize I wasn't the only one who found that odd.

I did rate it really high as I think it was really well-written. Literally, my only reason for not giving it a perfect score is only because it failed to show the disgruntled people coming to their senses and apologizing first. Had that happened and he accepted and shown the forgiveness he did in the end I'd have given it a perfect 10. It was one of the best and most satisfying dramas I've watched in a long time. It was wholesome and lovely and absolutely hilarious!

Just finished Crazy Love and I'm amazed at the fact that I now like this man even more than I already did. I sincerely didn't think it was possible for that to happen since I've been a hardcore fan of his for years now, but he was so silly and goofy in this (like he was in Her Private Life, but even more so) that I just fell even further down the rabbit hole of love for him! He's such an amazing actor. I'm so happy he looks so much healthier here than he did in Her Private Life too! He seems happier and I absolutely love it!