@AnicsiRoscoe I think there's a misunderstanding and it's entirely my fault for doing a bad job in defining the criteria, I'm going to edit the first post.
What I'm looking for is a different kind of balance between the partners. Who's the
more decisive, strong, emotionally stable one etc. The female shouldn't be the weaker one in most areas.
"I do remember that she is quite headstrong and decisive at first, but changes once her feelings develop more."
this is what I've found to be the case in most anime too. My issue though is less that she changes in some way, or that she relies on her partner for something, but that she looses too much. So much that her partner in the end gets to be the more assertive, the more dominant one inside the relationship and in even worse cases she suddenly starts to fully depend on him even though she was a really independent character at first.
"However, I think that is something very natural. If you like someone, you want them to like you back, and you might get insecure"
Very true and that doesn't automatically exclude it from the criteria, but it's not really important since it's about the balance between the two. Even if you are insecure at first, which I totally agree is only natural, this shouldn't be limited to the female lead. And even if it were so, once the relationship is developed more, the initial insecurities are likely to fade.
But in any case, how that may or may not be doesn't matter so much, what I'm looking for is a different balance inside the relationship than the usual one: where it's mostly him who takes care of her and not/much less the other way around (it can be both ways though). I'd like to see the female partner taking care of him too and/or be the (at least a bit) more stable, assertive one for a change.
Thanks a lot for explaining in such detail and also for your interesting thoughts about the show! It's really not uninteresting and I'd like to give it a closer look!
Also sorry for being so difficult ;)
@-T-
Thank you!
Going to look into them :)
The "pet" behaviour in Kimi wa Petto is quite weird, but it's interesting to see something so different for once :)
@Taylorgg12
I have never heard of it before, nor have I watched any Taiwanese dramas yet. I like the friends/roommates scenario. Thanks a lot for your recommendation, going to try to get into it :)